Most people aren’t going to want to hear this, but here goes. You can’t change. You can try. Just don’t expect it to work out.

When I was younger, I used to believe that people could change everything about themselves if they just tried. After years of watching the people around me, some whom I love very much, and others who are just acquaintances, not to mention all that I know about myself, I’ve concluded that people can’t change those things about themselves that make them who they are—the procrastinator, the excitable talker, the whiner. You see, these characteristics are driven by personality traits. As a procrastinator, every time you complete a goal or task, you’ve overcome procrastination—but you’re still a procrastinator, otherwise you wouldn’t have to work to overcome procrastination. You haven’t changed. You’ve only changed an event. Continue reading this article »